why do you elude me
Feb. 23rd, 2026 05:46 pmWatching my soprano section shrink in real time the week of a concert due to the germ soup we're all swimming around in out there: augh. (People. This is why most of your section leaders and certain choir elders have decided to continue singing masked, even if we can't make it policy again for the whole choir for various bureaucratic reasons. Seriously, 3M, where are those black N95s we've been politely requesting for four years now?)
Still, glad to be singing with a group whose music is meeting the moment; check program notes, well worth a read for background. Keeping in mind the timelines for performing classical music are scheduled well over a year in advance. A program replete with music from immigrants, combining disparate musical traditions in the best ways.
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We almost had snow in the Bay Area again last week - well, okay, the actual 2500' peaks like Mount Diablo and Mount Hamilton got snow and it looked pretty, and of course the much higher Sierras to our east got feet of snow and "no you can't fucking travel today" warnings and avalanche deaths - and now we're missing the first real snow in Boston in years, and it's pretty, but I'm okay with that.
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I dropped my phone awhile back, and while it was still technically functional, the back had enough spiderwebbing and flaking glass revealing the motherboard structure below that I got it replaced. It has literally taken most of the day since it arrived to get things swapped over. Mostly because this also involved a forced upgrade to Liquid Glass, which I'd been ducking, sigh.
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A few months ago,
hyounpark and I were getting on the freeway when a billboard flashed "LOCAL BIRRIA BALLS" at us. For, like, half a second, just long enough for H to read the phrase aloud, and go, "Birria *balls*?"
Me: "That's like, bringing up ancient catchphrases in my brain. Remember 'I wanna dip my balls in it'?"
H: "... I don't want to know, do I."
Me: "MTV in the '90s. For what it's worth, they were golf balls."
H: "I suspect birria balls are going to be quite different, but I'm driving so I can't find out right now."
Me: "I'm on it!"
Me, five minutes later: "Well, I can't find a local option for whatever these are, and Google keeps asking me if I'm looking for 'birria bombs.' But apparently a Mexican food truck in Kentucky says they're meatballs made of birria? With Hot Cheetos dust on the outside for crunch? ... and there's a restaurant in West Virginia that agrees with them."
H: "... I mean, that sounds like uber-American stoner kid food mashup culture, but why aren't there more local search results if there's literally a freeway billboard promoting it?"
Me: "Or we can buy them frozen. From an Italian specialty food shop. In Denmark."
H: "Google, you have utterly lost the plot."
We finally saw that particular billboard again (it's one of those electronic billboards with a rotating stash of ads), and this time, it had a URL attached, so we discovered that the local birria balls are literally just flavor packs, you have to provide your own birria in ball form.
Still, glad to be singing with a group whose music is meeting the moment; check program notes, well worth a read for background. Keeping in mind the timelines for performing classical music are scheduled well over a year in advance. A program replete with music from immigrants, combining disparate musical traditions in the best ways.
*
We almost had snow in the Bay Area again last week - well, okay, the actual 2500' peaks like Mount Diablo and Mount Hamilton got snow and it looked pretty, and of course the much higher Sierras to our east got feet of snow and "no you can't fucking travel today" warnings and avalanche deaths - and now we're missing the first real snow in Boston in years, and it's pretty, but I'm okay with that.
*
I dropped my phone awhile back, and while it was still technically functional, the back had enough spiderwebbing and flaking glass revealing the motherboard structure below that I got it replaced. It has literally taken most of the day since it arrived to get things swapped over. Mostly because this also involved a forced upgrade to Liquid Glass, which I'd been ducking, sigh.
*
A few months ago,
Me: "That's like, bringing up ancient catchphrases in my brain. Remember 'I wanna dip my balls in it'?"
H: "... I don't want to know, do I."
Me: "MTV in the '90s. For what it's worth, they were golf balls."
H: "I suspect birria balls are going to be quite different, but I'm driving so I can't find out right now."
Me: "I'm on it!"
Me, five minutes later: "Well, I can't find a local option for whatever these are, and Google keeps asking me if I'm looking for 'birria bombs.' But apparently a Mexican food truck in Kentucky says they're meatballs made of birria? With Hot Cheetos dust on the outside for crunch? ... and there's a restaurant in West Virginia that agrees with them."
H: "... I mean, that sounds like uber-American stoner kid food mashup culture, but why aren't there more local search results if there's literally a freeway billboard promoting it?"
Me: "Or we can buy them frozen. From an Italian specialty food shop. In Denmark."
H: "Google, you have utterly lost the plot."
We finally saw that particular billboard again (it's one of those electronic billboards with a rotating stash of ads), and this time, it had a URL attached, so we discovered that the local birria balls are literally just flavor packs, you have to provide your own birria in ball form.
The Jewish War: Second half of Book 1
Feb. 22nd, 2026 07:06 pmLast week: Some really interesting discussions on (among other things) Caesar Augustus, the temple in Egypt, and the destruction of the temple (in Jerusalem) as divine punishment and also free will.
This week: More Herod! Definitely went quite a bit faster than last week! Featuring lots and lots of family drama... the kind that includes a ton of bloodshed. I'll talk more about it in comments.
Next week:
selenak can you give us a halfway point for Book 2? It looks a bit shorter but I'm also going to be crunched for time next week (and definitely won't be able to post until Sunday) so half a book is what it's going to have to be! ETA: Death of Emperor Claudius!
This week: More Herod! Definitely went quite a bit faster than last week! Featuring lots and lots of family drama... the kind that includes a ton of bloodshed. I'll talk more about it in comments.
Next week:
In the mail
Feb. 18th, 2026 01:18 amThe person taking care of my house during this adventure sends me my mail once a week. I'd seen the packet from a couple weeks ago but put it aside knowing there was a bunch of stuff in it I actually wanted to look at.
Lo and behold: a notice dated 1/15 that the insurance company required more information from the surgeon before authorizing my hip replacement surgery. Note: said surgery was scheduled for the 23rd.
Also a note - the date of which I didn't notice - that declined the authorization for the replacement saying it wasn't medically necessary because it didn't meet several of the 9 or 10 criteria - ALL of which must be met to make it medically necessary - that were listed. And also that the hospital stay wasn't authorized because it could be done as outpatient or with a 23 hour stay as there were no comorbidities provided that would lead to the authorization of the stay.
Interestingly, there was *also* a note from the insurance company authorizing my stay at the rehab hospital for my non-medically necessary hip replacement.
Now first off: I *did* ask, repeatedly, if we'd gotten the pre-auth for the surgery and was assured we did not require one. Sounded very odd to me so I asked if we'd gotten the pre-auth for the hospital stay. Was told that's up to the nurse navigators (the ones I was not put in touch with until way too little time before the surgery). So I asked them if we'd gotten the pre-authorization for surgery and hospital stay.... which got the administrative nurse saying it was a good thing I asked because my surgery had been scheduled incorrectly and they were in the process of fixing it.
Secondly, I very specifically had expressed concern that the x-rays they took did not have a detailed report about the level of osteoarthritis, etc., as well as that my ADLs were radically affected by my hip issues (the notes said they were not affected, I wrote to them after the pre-op consult and said, "There's an error. Please fix." and they said, "There's no error."). Guess what two of the reasons for the declined authorization were?
Thirdly, if he proceeded with the surgery without getting the necessary pre-authorization AFTER I REPEATEDLY asked if the date had to move again because of a possible pre-auth issue (and after I reminded them that I DON'T LIVE HERE so, if it had to get delayed again, my stay here would be longer and cost lots of money) and I get a bill from the hospital? I'm sending it to his office SO fast and saying, "This one is on you; I raised a stack of flags ahead of time."
All that said, recovery seems to be going well. My rollator is too tall so I ordered one that has handles that can be set lower - but the one that arrived has a seat that doesn't lock down so it's unusable. Likely buying a new one before this one goes back. Which is unfortunate as I got it direct from the manufacture's "at home" site and it was priced way more affordably than from third party vendors... but I want it in hand so I can practice prior to the PT eval. Which was postponed because it was pouring and powerchair plus rain is no bueno. Thankfully, "tomorrow" (it's after midnight; it's technically today but I have not yet been to sleep and awakened again) it's going to be clear so I can get the sutures out and Friday it's going to be clear so I can get new labwork and see Dr. Hematology. Thank the Universe.
The next challenge is going to be getting PT to understand there is so much more to rehab than my hip, to figure out what physiatrist to see so I can get VERY long-overdue thoracic images taken, and then figure out what's next. Because, right now, research shows that it might take as long to recondition everything that has failed on my body (hip is probably 25 percent of the issues; no, Rehab people, it was NOT my hip that caused me to have issues with stairs!) as it did to decondition. Which means 7 or so years. Hip replacement is not the magic wand everyone said it would be. I knew that, even as I hoped otherwise. But unless my stamina comes back way faster than I think it will, and my ability to manage a rollator and so on over distance increases super significantly, powerchairs are not leaving my life any time soon. So yeah, that's another insurance hurdle.
To say nothing of the current reimbursement hurdles and so on. Fun times ahead. Onwards.
Lo and behold: a notice dated 1/15 that the insurance company required more information from the surgeon before authorizing my hip replacement surgery. Note: said surgery was scheduled for the 23rd.
Also a note - the date of which I didn't notice - that declined the authorization for the replacement saying it wasn't medically necessary because it didn't meet several of the 9 or 10 criteria - ALL of which must be met to make it medically necessary - that were listed. And also that the hospital stay wasn't authorized because it could be done as outpatient or with a 23 hour stay as there were no comorbidities provided that would lead to the authorization of the stay.
Interestingly, there was *also* a note from the insurance company authorizing my stay at the rehab hospital for my non-medically necessary hip replacement.
Now first off: I *did* ask, repeatedly, if we'd gotten the pre-auth for the surgery and was assured we did not require one. Sounded very odd to me so I asked if we'd gotten the pre-auth for the hospital stay. Was told that's up to the nurse navigators (the ones I was not put in touch with until way too little time before the surgery). So I asked them if we'd gotten the pre-authorization for surgery and hospital stay.... which got the administrative nurse saying it was a good thing I asked because my surgery had been scheduled incorrectly and they were in the process of fixing it.
Secondly, I very specifically had expressed concern that the x-rays they took did not have a detailed report about the level of osteoarthritis, etc., as well as that my ADLs were radically affected by my hip issues (the notes said they were not affected, I wrote to them after the pre-op consult and said, "There's an error. Please fix." and they said, "There's no error."). Guess what two of the reasons for the declined authorization were?
Thirdly, if he proceeded with the surgery without getting the necessary pre-authorization AFTER I REPEATEDLY asked if the date had to move again because of a possible pre-auth issue (and after I reminded them that I DON'T LIVE HERE so, if it had to get delayed again, my stay here would be longer and cost lots of money) and I get a bill from the hospital? I'm sending it to his office SO fast and saying, "This one is on you; I raised a stack of flags ahead of time."
All that said, recovery seems to be going well. My rollator is too tall so I ordered one that has handles that can be set lower - but the one that arrived has a seat that doesn't lock down so it's unusable. Likely buying a new one before this one goes back. Which is unfortunate as I got it direct from the manufacture's "at home" site and it was priced way more affordably than from third party vendors... but I want it in hand so I can practice prior to the PT eval. Which was postponed because it was pouring and powerchair plus rain is no bueno. Thankfully, "tomorrow" (it's after midnight; it's technically today but I have not yet been to sleep and awakened again) it's going to be clear so I can get the sutures out and Friday it's going to be clear so I can get new labwork and see Dr. Hematology. Thank the Universe.
The next challenge is going to be getting PT to understand there is so much more to rehab than my hip, to figure out what physiatrist to see so I can get VERY long-overdue thoracic images taken, and then figure out what's next. Because, right now, research shows that it might take as long to recondition everything that has failed on my body (hip is probably 25 percent of the issues; no, Rehab people, it was NOT my hip that caused me to have issues with stairs!) as it did to decondition. Which means 7 or so years. Hip replacement is not the magic wand everyone said it would be. I knew that, even as I hoped otherwise. But unless my stamina comes back way faster than I think it will, and my ability to manage a rollator and so on over distance increases super significantly, powerchairs are not leaving my life any time soon. So yeah, that's another insurance hurdle.
To say nothing of the current reimbursement hurdles and so on. Fun times ahead. Onwards.
Vampire Survivors: The Queen
Feb. 17th, 2026 03:56 pmI did it, I got to the credits and unlocked the Queen :D
( Notes, spoilers everywhere )
I definitely want to continue playing and discover more, at least for a bit (until DD finally has time to play Hades 2, most likely, because we decided to start an 1.0 playthrough at roughly the same time.) But I'm glad I got to this point now because that'll make it much easier to take a break.
( Notes, spoilers everywhere )
I definitely want to continue playing and discover more, at least for a bit (until DD finally has time to play Hades 2, most likely, because we decided to start an 1.0 playthrough at roughly the same time.) But I'm glad I got to this point now because that'll make it much easier to take a break.
Education meme
Feb. 16th, 2026 11:23 amEducational meme from
thistleingrey (also seen at a couple of other places under lock). I've answered for both my sister and myself (generally similar answers, sometimes not), as well as for my kids. (Will eventually lock.)
( Cut for length )
( Cut for length )
sf supernatural monsters
Feb. 16th, 2026 11:54 amSomething that I just don't usually do well with in sf/f is unnatural monsters presented in a scientific-ish context.
Admittedly I'm not into horror for horror, so I'm definitely missing a piece of the enjoyment that lets a fan of e.g. monstrous characters/enemies overlook other stuff - "OK the plot isn't great but I really liked the minotaur so it was worth the trade off!" which is definitely something I do for stuff that I care about, like interesting worldbuilding. Everyone's got their preferences and IMO it's not worth interrogating past that, sometimes you just like what you like. But the problem is the suspension of disbelief and the way that it breaks mine when sf tries to talk about horrifying supernatural monsters in a scientific context because then: WE HAVE BROUGHT IN BIOLOGY. (Oh no.)
I find a lot of horror wants to play off that fear that this monster is so much better than humans so we are helpless against it. OK. But unfortunately I cannot stop thinking about biology, and also, what underpins biology: energy. First, the biology part - there are lots of animals and not-animals here, today, in the past, that are better than humans on just about any axis. It's kind of what happens when you compare 1 species against, you know, several hundred millions of other species. There isn't really an apex of all apexes, there was no cosmic race to do that, and also no reason to do so. A species exists in a time and place and its unique constraints. Pretty much nothing is adapted to every conceivable environment - why should it be? And every species and individual makes trade offs because energy is not infinite. There are lots of advantages to being warm blooded like a human (being able to move! running from danger! actively capturing things!) but also lots of disadvantages (the number of calories you have to consume is staggeringly more than cold blooded, not to mention plants! you're limited by the productivity of the prey you eat!) There's not exactly a hard-and-fast rule that says anaerobic life forms are better at life than aerobic, I'm sorry. Each of them generally does extremely poorly in the wrong environment. As you add complexity you add to the number of ways things can go wrong, you add to the cost of maintaining all that infrastructure...It's always bothered me when the aliens are so much better for monstrous reasons just because Doylistically, that makes them scary. OK, but what does make them able to exist better than us in hard vacuum and in a hyperoxygenated environment like Earth? (Have you seen what oxygen does to stuff that has never been exposed to oxygen before? What it did to all the rocks that were present on the planet when it happened? The effects are still visible several billion years later. Have you thought about fire and why it does really well here and not elsewhere?) If they move faster than us, does that mean they need more energy? What about their joints? This is a part of my brain I am apparently unable to shut off if the context invites any kind of biological scrutiny. We are humans writing for other humans, we know our limitations imposed by biology and physics because obviously, we inhabit these bodies and have first-hand knowledge, which is unconsciously integrated into our art. When monsters are written this way, they appear to have no limits, and I find that weirdly frustrating. Not to mention the worldbuilding pretzel I find hard to respect when the monster is actually custom-designed to be extra scary or good at killing/destroying humans, when they did not know about humans - it's just too much Ah How Convenient, Humans Are The Center of the Universe (Negative Edition) to me. I'd respect it more if a monster was like "oh I have discovered Humans are a great snack, didn't know they existed!" rather than some cosmically horrifying this has always been out there to hunt you, a Very Important Organism from the Center of the Universe* statement. I don't think these concerns bother other people who like the genre, or use these concepts, it's just me. They wake up every ounce of my but actuallyyyy instincts and then I stop enjoying it as a book**.
I'm OK with totally magical (often in fantasy) monsters, since it just says OK, ignore all physical realities, this is something else. That's fine. I just can't with the halfsies position here.
(Indeed I did not enjoy Blindsight [I believe this is Peter Watts' exercise in despair], nor Into the Drowning Deep, nor right now, Leviathan Wakes.)
*Pretty sure we're in a backwater actually
** Actually I also don't appreciate, this time from a narrative perspective, the way many of those also do a late-book shift into re-examining the horrifying bits as Actually This is Beautiful, which I find both twee and irritating. THIS IS JUST NOT FOR ME
Admittedly I'm not into horror for horror, so I'm definitely missing a piece of the enjoyment that lets a fan of e.g. monstrous characters/enemies overlook other stuff - "OK the plot isn't great but I really liked the minotaur so it was worth the trade off!" which is definitely something I do for stuff that I care about, like interesting worldbuilding. Everyone's got their preferences and IMO it's not worth interrogating past that, sometimes you just like what you like. But the problem is the suspension of disbelief and the way that it breaks mine when sf tries to talk about horrifying supernatural monsters in a scientific context because then: WE HAVE BROUGHT IN BIOLOGY. (Oh no.)
I find a lot of horror wants to play off that fear that this monster is so much better than humans so we are helpless against it. OK. But unfortunately I cannot stop thinking about biology, and also, what underpins biology: energy. First, the biology part - there are lots of animals and not-animals here, today, in the past, that are better than humans on just about any axis. It's kind of what happens when you compare 1 species against, you know, several hundred millions of other species. There isn't really an apex of all apexes, there was no cosmic race to do that, and also no reason to do so. A species exists in a time and place and its unique constraints. Pretty much nothing is adapted to every conceivable environment - why should it be? And every species and individual makes trade offs because energy is not infinite. There are lots of advantages to being warm blooded like a human (being able to move! running from danger! actively capturing things!) but also lots of disadvantages (the number of calories you have to consume is staggeringly more than cold blooded, not to mention plants! you're limited by the productivity of the prey you eat!) There's not exactly a hard-and-fast rule that says anaerobic life forms are better at life than aerobic, I'm sorry. Each of them generally does extremely poorly in the wrong environment. As you add complexity you add to the number of ways things can go wrong, you add to the cost of maintaining all that infrastructure...It's always bothered me when the aliens are so much better for monstrous reasons just because Doylistically, that makes them scary. OK, but what does make them able to exist better than us in hard vacuum and in a hyperoxygenated environment like Earth? (Have you seen what oxygen does to stuff that has never been exposed to oxygen before? What it did to all the rocks that were present on the planet when it happened? The effects are still visible several billion years later. Have you thought about fire and why it does really well here and not elsewhere?) If they move faster than us, does that mean they need more energy? What about their joints? This is a part of my brain I am apparently unable to shut off if the context invites any kind of biological scrutiny. We are humans writing for other humans, we know our limitations imposed by biology and physics because obviously, we inhabit these bodies and have first-hand knowledge, which is unconsciously integrated into our art. When monsters are written this way, they appear to have no limits, and I find that weirdly frustrating. Not to mention the worldbuilding pretzel I find hard to respect when the monster is actually custom-designed to be extra scary or good at killing/destroying humans, when they did not know about humans - it's just too much Ah How Convenient, Humans Are The Center of the Universe (Negative Edition) to me. I'd respect it more if a monster was like "oh I have discovered Humans are a great snack, didn't know they existed!" rather than some cosmically horrifying this has always been out there to hunt you, a Very Important Organism from the Center of the Universe* statement. I don't think these concerns bother other people who like the genre, or use these concepts, it's just me. They wake up every ounce of my but actuallyyyy instincts and then I stop enjoying it as a book**.
I'm OK with totally magical (often in fantasy) monsters, since it just says OK, ignore all physical realities, this is something else. That's fine. I just can't with the halfsies position here.
(Indeed I did not enjoy Blindsight [I believe this is Peter Watts' exercise in despair], nor Into the Drowning Deep, nor right now, Leviathan Wakes.)
*Pretty sure we're in a backwater actually
** Actually I also don't appreciate, this time from a narrative perspective, the way many of those also do a late-book shift into re-examining the horrifying bits as Actually This is Beautiful, which I find both twee and irritating. THIS IS JUST NOT FOR ME
3 Good Things
Feb. 15th, 2026 08:51 pm1. The snow has stayed on the ground here long enough that we're finally Acquiring Some Sleds in anticipation of going sledding with friends next weekend. It is so wonderful to have a winter feel like winter again.
2. Hosted a neat new-to-me game yesterday with some close friends and a potential new friend I met through my Awesome Neighbor friend. We all had a great time! We immediately rolled right into plotting More Fun Like This Soon. It's good to be exercising my making-new-friends muscles again.
2a. The game being Molly House, with its gripping shifts between personal queer joy, community delight, and pressuring fears (constables, rogues, and gossip all threatening to trigger police raids of the central molly houses),( I would be fascinated to play it again... )
3. I am looking forward to some quiet time at home tomorrow, I say, also having ambitions of Bake & Roast All The Things, do my taxes so I can get my solar panel credits reimbursed (yay, solar!), and maybe get some extra time in at the local studio before my pottery class starts.
Bonus: This being the cold hard dark slog time of year, it helps to have something joyous to move to. I went and looked up what all the musicians I last bought music from (mostly 5+ years ago) have put out in the last few years since, and bought the latest album of each. So far I'm particularly enjoying Wu Fei & Abigail Washburn's debut collaboration merging American old-time music and Chinese folksong, and the latest from MEUTE.
Have you been listening to anything particularly good lately? What is bringing you joy, defiant or otherwise?
2. Hosted a neat new-to-me game yesterday with some close friends and a potential new friend I met through my Awesome Neighbor friend. We all had a great time! We immediately rolled right into plotting More Fun Like This Soon. It's good to be exercising my making-new-friends muscles again.
2a. The game being Molly House, with its gripping shifts between personal queer joy, community delight, and pressuring fears (constables, rogues, and gossip all threatening to trigger police raids of the central molly houses),( I would be fascinated to play it again... )
3. I am looking forward to some quiet time at home tomorrow, I say, also having ambitions of Bake & Roast All The Things, do my taxes so I can get my solar panel credits reimbursed (yay, solar!), and maybe get some extra time in at the local studio before my pottery class starts.
Bonus: This being the cold hard dark slog time of year, it helps to have something joyous to move to. I went and looked up what all the musicians I last bought music from (mostly 5+ years ago) have put out in the last few years since, and bought the latest album of each. So far I'm particularly enjoying Wu Fei & Abigail Washburn's debut collaboration merging American old-time music and Chinese folksong, and the latest from MEUTE.
Have you been listening to anything particularly good lately? What is bringing you joy, defiant or otherwise?
The Jewish War: First half of Book 1
Feb. 14th, 2026 10:32 pmI am super not promising to always have this on Saturday, but yay long weekend!
Last week: I know some of you reading this study Talmud -- Josephus asserts at the very beginning that the "sufferings of the Jews" (presumably, in context of Josephus' writing, Titus destroying the temple, etc. though we won't get there for a while) are their own fault: "no foreign power is to blame." It was pointed out that the Talmud may (?) have its own opinion(s) as to whether the destruction of the Temple and the resulting diaspora was divine punishment? And regardless of the former, may also blame Titus? (I also don't know yet, because we haven't gotten there yet and won't for a while, whether Josephus himself thinks it's divine punishment or just plain old temporal consequences. My vague recollection of Feuchtwanger's Josephus is that he was thinking more of the latter, which is also very much borne out by this week's reading.)
This week: First half of Book 1 (Ch 22 / Par 444):
Okay, I must say the first part of this was a slog for me -- flitting between a lot of people I didn't know. Good thing we have this reading group or I might not have got through it. As it was, I had to take copious notes to even make a stab at writing up a summary (I won't promise I'll do this every week, but I had a little extra time and quite frankly I knew I wouldn't remember who any of these people were next week if I didn't), and I'm going to put them in comments so this post doesn't get super long. At least Josephus felt it was "inappropriate to go into the early history of the Jews," which would have made it really long. Anyway, it got substantially more interesting once Herod showed up!
Next week: Finish book 1.
Last week: I know some of you reading this study Talmud -- Josephus asserts at the very beginning that the "sufferings of the Jews" (presumably, in context of Josephus' writing, Titus destroying the temple, etc. though we won't get there for a while) are their own fault: "no foreign power is to blame." It was pointed out that the Talmud may (?) have its own opinion(s) as to whether the destruction of the Temple and the resulting diaspora was divine punishment? And regardless of the former, may also blame Titus? (I also don't know yet, because we haven't gotten there yet and won't for a while, whether Josephus himself thinks it's divine punishment or just plain old temporal consequences. My vague recollection of Feuchtwanger's Josephus is that he was thinking more of the latter, which is also very much borne out by this week's reading.)
This week: First half of Book 1 (Ch 22 / Par 444):
Okay, I must say the first part of this was a slog for me -- flitting between a lot of people I didn't know. Good thing we have this reading group or I might not have got through it. As it was, I had to take copious notes to even make a stab at writing up a summary (I won't promise I'll do this every week, but I had a little extra time and quite frankly I knew I wouldn't remember who any of these people were next week if I didn't), and I'm going to put them in comments so this post doesn't get super long. At least Josephus felt it was "inappropriate to go into the early history of the Jews," which would have made it really long. Anyway, it got substantially more interesting once Herod showed up!
Next week: Finish book 1.
i know all the wrong turns, the stumbles and falls that brought me here
Feb. 14th, 2026 10:07 pmTwenty-plus years of loving each other, cooking together, and building upon our mutual disdain of dealing with crowds and reservations for Valentine's Day means
hyounpark and I made a dinner worth remembering tonight.
By default, when we have pork belly around in the winter, we usually braise it in apple cider, along with a chopped onion, garlic, a little soy sauce, fish sauce, and fivespice. But we didn't have apple cider in the fridge, so I thought about what else we could use for a braising liquid, and while pondering, found a recipe on the McCormick website for a Thai Tea-Spiced Pork Belly with Condensed Milk Sauce, and my eyes lit up, because I knew we had Thai tea packets on hand.
We riffed heavily off that recipe, mostly treating it as taste profile suggestions. I started steeping a liter of Thai tea while H chopped an onion, then I sauteed the onions with garlic and ginger paste (an incredible convenience courtesy the Indian grocery store in our neighborhood), and then added some fivespice powder. H crosshatched the pork belly skin, then cut it into small enough slabs to fit in our Instant Pot. I added a few tablespoons of soy sauce and fish sauce to the stuff in the skillet, then dumped that in the bottom of the Instant Pot; laid the pork belly slabs on top of the rack in the IP, and poured the tea over everything, and then closed it up and let it go on high for 20 minutes.
While that went, H tried to turn our rice into the suggested rice cakes, but we should've used sushi rice instead of brown rice which was what we had ready. Even using the musubi mold didn't get it to stick together enough, alas. Everything still tasted delicious in the end, though, so no fuss.
Meanwhile, I made the condensed milk sauce in the recipe - we had condensed coconut milk on hand, I subbed in peanut butter for the tahini and chile crisp for the sambal - and then turned my attention to the salad. What did we have in the fridge? Half a head of butter lettuce, some shiso leaves, scallions; enough for at least a little greenery on the plate. Chopped the leafy greens and scallion up, and then, inspired, ran an apple through the mandolin. Whisked together a dressing of peanut oil, lime juice, fish sauce, a little galangal and garlic. Topped it off with peanuts.
The IP finished releasing pressure just as we finished the rest of the plating; we each pulled out a small slab of pork belly, drizzled the condensed milk sauce over it, and utterly freaking devoured our dinner. Everything just came together, building on decades of experience and familiarity with each others' taste, and we will absolutely do this again.
And it's not Valentine's for us without chocolate, so I pulled a log of our favorite chocolate toffee cookies out of the freezer, sliced and baked and ate. (Along with the last crumbs of the gargantuan king cake slice
ladyjax bestowed upon me yesterday! Many thanks to her A for the baking thereof :) )
Somehow we will both get up in the morning and go for a digestive run and continue appreciating how we grow together, even as things around us are so very different from how we imagined when we began.
By default, when we have pork belly around in the winter, we usually braise it in apple cider, along with a chopped onion, garlic, a little soy sauce, fish sauce, and fivespice. But we didn't have apple cider in the fridge, so I thought about what else we could use for a braising liquid, and while pondering, found a recipe on the McCormick website for a Thai Tea-Spiced Pork Belly with Condensed Milk Sauce, and my eyes lit up, because I knew we had Thai tea packets on hand.
We riffed heavily off that recipe, mostly treating it as taste profile suggestions. I started steeping a liter of Thai tea while H chopped an onion, then I sauteed the onions with garlic and ginger paste (an incredible convenience courtesy the Indian grocery store in our neighborhood), and then added some fivespice powder. H crosshatched the pork belly skin, then cut it into small enough slabs to fit in our Instant Pot. I added a few tablespoons of soy sauce and fish sauce to the stuff in the skillet, then dumped that in the bottom of the Instant Pot; laid the pork belly slabs on top of the rack in the IP, and poured the tea over everything, and then closed it up and let it go on high for 20 minutes.
While that went, H tried to turn our rice into the suggested rice cakes, but we should've used sushi rice instead of brown rice which was what we had ready. Even using the musubi mold didn't get it to stick together enough, alas. Everything still tasted delicious in the end, though, so no fuss.
Meanwhile, I made the condensed milk sauce in the recipe - we had condensed coconut milk on hand, I subbed in peanut butter for the tahini and chile crisp for the sambal - and then turned my attention to the salad. What did we have in the fridge? Half a head of butter lettuce, some shiso leaves, scallions; enough for at least a little greenery on the plate. Chopped the leafy greens and scallion up, and then, inspired, ran an apple through the mandolin. Whisked together a dressing of peanut oil, lime juice, fish sauce, a little galangal and garlic. Topped it off with peanuts.
The IP finished releasing pressure just as we finished the rest of the plating; we each pulled out a small slab of pork belly, drizzled the condensed milk sauce over it, and utterly freaking devoured our dinner. Everything just came together, building on decades of experience and familiarity with each others' taste, and we will absolutely do this again.
And it's not Valentine's for us without chocolate, so I pulled a log of our favorite chocolate toffee cookies out of the freezer, sliced and baked and ate. (Along with the last crumbs of the gargantuan king cake slice
Somehow we will both get up in the morning and go for a digestive run and continue appreciating how we grow together, even as things around us are so very different from how we imagined when we began.
Meme: Quarterly Intentions (1.5/4) - Check In
Feb. 14th, 2026 10:09 amHappy Galentines/Valentines Day! We are midway through February. If you started the year with some intentions, or have accumulated some new intentions since, how are they going? Is there anything you want to prune back or lean into?
How Are You? (in Haiku)
Feb. 14th, 2026 10:07 amPick a thing or two that sums up how you're doing today, this week, in general, and tell me about it in the 5-7-5 syllables of a haiku.
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Signal-boosting much appreciated!
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Signal-boosting much appreciated!
No way out but through
Feb. 13th, 2026 05:39 pmWell, I survived the hospital and then I went to the orthopedic floor of a rehabilitation hospital. It was a way shorter stay than I anticipated but it was "three hours" of PT or OT a day, except on your designated rest day. Three hours in quotes because, of course, there's stuff like just getting one's shoes on (because my aides weren't certified to assist me) and filling people in on history and more... but it was still a lot. So I arrived on a Wednesday night and it's a "soft landing", except of course it was a lot of people and they still didn't communicate everything I had to know, and then it was Thursday and Friday and Saturday was the off day - that one of the CNAs was going to come and help me shower, except they moved her somewhere else that day. SO frustrating; she was the only one I trusted to make sure the incisions stayed dry and so on. So that didn't happen. Then it was Sunday through Saturday, and Sunday again and they were discharging me on the 9th. Which I fought tooth and nail because, even in the short time that I'd been there I'd learned SO much.... and they were like, "this is supposed to be like a boot camp jump start" and I'm like "but you all are showing me how much ELSE is wrong with my body AND how to use it" and they're like buh bye. I have to admit it was fun to say to doctor and case manager, "Hey, I spoke to insurance and they said that, as long as I'm making progress, I can stay for a month as far as they are concerned." They looked at each other like, "Ugh, our main argument just got pulled out from under us."
The medical care there really kinda sucked. My designated doctor (a physiatrist) clearly didn't really want to know how I was doing; she was checking boxes. I refrained from saying to her, "You know, Doctor, calling your patient "dear" because you can't remember their name really isn't a good look." Then there was this internist who kept rounding on me even though he, technically, wasn't having anything to do with my care - but hey, it's another patient he can bill for.... and he nearly f'ed me up when he asked for 3 more iron infusions on top of the 5 I'd already agreed to with the hematologist. I thought I'd lost track of days when they did the sixth, and then I realized no that's more than I agreed to so I had them de-access the port.... then the next day the nurse said we have to access your port again, and I said why and she said because it's supposed to be 8 infusions. To which I said hell no I felt like pure unmitigated garbage this morning, and I wasn't consulted, and my anemia is not an iron deficiency anemia so no.
And then there was the hematologist. Who happened to be the hematologist I famously fired last Spring after I saw him following my discharge from my hospital stay because it was clear he was lazy as hell and wasn't going to advocate the way I needed him to in order to keep me safe for all my procedures.... and then stumbled into Dr. Hematology's practice - and he happens to be one of the most respected hematologists in the area. Which stood me in good stead with Dr. Fired (who warmly greeted me and I warmly greeted him back and neither of us talked about the fact that I'd fired him)... except of course Dr. Fired reminded me not to "break the system", saying that - in his office, or Dr. Hematology in his office, could do almost anything but here there was a way they did things.... and I definitely broke the system because Dr. Hematology had a note on my record to transfuse if I went under 10 (they don't do it unless you're at 7 or below) and I hit 8.4 and sent a note to him and Dr. Fired saying "PLEASE can we....because I'm trying to heal from major surgery here..." and then the internist (Dr. Slimy, for REASONS) was like "Oh the blood bank can deny it because you're now at 9.1" and making me feel like a princess for even asking. So yeah. The medical care there lacked something. A lot of somethings.
The food tasted better than the Big Hospital. Though it took them a while to finally figure out that it's a latex CONTACT allergy and avocados and more are not an issue, and that it's PISTACHIO, not tree nuts, and no, I do NOT have a gluten allergy. I was served one meal that was ONE three ounce piece of overcooked cod. No veggies. No sauce. Not even lemon juice. Plus two desserts, and a glass of cranberry juice. Took a picture of that one to show the dietician and she was like "Um that shouldn't have happened..." Initially the caloric intake was WAY too low. Noted that I'm supposed to eat 100 grams of protein a day and she wrote that I could get double protein for every meal - though it didn't always turn up that way.
But yeah, PT and OT showed me a) how deconditioned I am and b) how past injuries that were never looked at and/or never properly treated mean that replacing the hip gives me new mobility in the hip but I'm still super limited in so many other ways. That's really frustrating. Hoping to find a doctor I can talk some of this through with so that we can give me full mobility and not just the hip. Oh, and I learned my rollator is about three inches too tall for me. I've now ordered a new one that can be set lower. Here's hoping that improves my gait.
I have zero idea why I have to be off work for so long - though it is, ostensibly, going to be a bunch of PT and possibly OT. And I alternate between having zero interest in rushing back and thinking of all the notes I am SO behind on sending.
Damn the torpedos; full speed ahead?
The medical care there really kinda sucked. My designated doctor (a physiatrist) clearly didn't really want to know how I was doing; she was checking boxes. I refrained from saying to her, "You know, Doctor, calling your patient "dear" because you can't remember their name really isn't a good look." Then there was this internist who kept rounding on me even though he, technically, wasn't having anything to do with my care - but hey, it's another patient he can bill for.... and he nearly f'ed me up when he asked for 3 more iron infusions on top of the 5 I'd already agreed to with the hematologist. I thought I'd lost track of days when they did the sixth, and then I realized no that's more than I agreed to so I had them de-access the port.... then the next day the nurse said we have to access your port again, and I said why and she said because it's supposed to be 8 infusions. To which I said hell no I felt like pure unmitigated garbage this morning, and I wasn't consulted, and my anemia is not an iron deficiency anemia so no.
And then there was the hematologist. Who happened to be the hematologist I famously fired last Spring after I saw him following my discharge from my hospital stay because it was clear he was lazy as hell and wasn't going to advocate the way I needed him to in order to keep me safe for all my procedures.... and then stumbled into Dr. Hematology's practice - and he happens to be one of the most respected hematologists in the area. Which stood me in good stead with Dr. Fired (who warmly greeted me and I warmly greeted him back and neither of us talked about the fact that I'd fired him)... except of course Dr. Fired reminded me not to "break the system", saying that - in his office, or Dr. Hematology in his office, could do almost anything but here there was a way they did things.... and I definitely broke the system because Dr. Hematology had a note on my record to transfuse if I went under 10 (they don't do it unless you're at 7 or below) and I hit 8.4 and sent a note to him and Dr. Fired saying "PLEASE can we....because I'm trying to heal from major surgery here..." and then the internist (Dr. Slimy, for REASONS) was like "Oh the blood bank can deny it because you're now at 9.1" and making me feel like a princess for even asking. So yeah. The medical care there lacked something. A lot of somethings.
The food tasted better than the Big Hospital. Though it took them a while to finally figure out that it's a latex CONTACT allergy and avocados and more are not an issue, and that it's PISTACHIO, not tree nuts, and no, I do NOT have a gluten allergy. I was served one meal that was ONE three ounce piece of overcooked cod. No veggies. No sauce. Not even lemon juice. Plus two desserts, and a glass of cranberry juice. Took a picture of that one to show the dietician and she was like "Um that shouldn't have happened..." Initially the caloric intake was WAY too low. Noted that I'm supposed to eat 100 grams of protein a day and she wrote that I could get double protein for every meal - though it didn't always turn up that way.
But yeah, PT and OT showed me a) how deconditioned I am and b) how past injuries that were never looked at and/or never properly treated mean that replacing the hip gives me new mobility in the hip but I'm still super limited in so many other ways. That's really frustrating. Hoping to find a doctor I can talk some of this through with so that we can give me full mobility and not just the hip. Oh, and I learned my rollator is about three inches too tall for me. I've now ordered a new one that can be set lower. Here's hoping that improves my gait.
I have zero idea why I have to be off work for so long - though it is, ostensibly, going to be a bunch of PT and possibly OT. And I alternate between having zero interest in rushing back and thinking of all the notes I am SO behind on sending.
Damn the torpedos; full speed ahead?
Poem: "Choosing to Sprout"
Feb. 13th, 2026 12:53 pmThe seeds lying in their wombs of earth are turning now
preparing to kick out taproots through their coats
I rewatch the video of bluebird chicks cracking their own eggshells
Wondering at babies battering through barriers to birth themselves
Choosing again and again to leave every womb that once held them
Protected and confined
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preparing to kick out taproots through their coats
I rewatch the video of bluebird chicks cracking their own eggshells
Wondering at babies battering through barriers to birth themselves
Choosing again and again to leave every womb that once held them
Protected and confined
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This work is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-ShareAlike 4.0 International License.